tired and tiny
I’m tired, they are tiny,
I feel physically tired, late night, and also just tired, tired of people telling me stuff, stuff which I am supposed to control? Not trying to be cryptic, school really, when you are told that your son is under the table and he has punched the person who is telling you all of this, what can you say, what do they want me to say??
Do they want me to say sorry, do they want me to tell him off, do they want me to punch him, do they want to punch me?
What do they want?
(the tiny heart and buttons are to be used in a present, for people who have me smile!)
14th July 2008 @ 5:33 pm
Dear Raspberry – just remember how you felt the other week about school and how things were going – improving.. and remember that your son wasn’t the only human involved in the ‘punching’ situation and question how an adult could get themselves into this situation with a child who was obviously getting upset about something. Why was said adult not able to mollify your son, what did they do to push/or not prevent it coming to this. He’s (your son) is supposed to be the less able in ‘anger’ situations, he is after a child whatever other issues he may have. Go have a cup of tea, give him a cuddle and talk it through with him you might be surprised by how he saw the situation.
14th July 2008 @ 6:11 pm
Oh Alice, what can I say? I fully fully understand exactly what you mean. Earlier this year, at the end of school my son’s teacher came over to me to tell me he’d bitten another child at school. What exactly did they want me to do? It had happened earlier in the day – did they want me to tell him off? I just didn’t know, what I did know is that I walked away feeling awful. Being a parent is a hard hard job, and being a parent of a child that has particular needs (mine suffer with attachment disorder) is very very hard and very very lonely. I’m not sure I’ve been any help at all – I just want you to know you aren’t alone, and you aren’t alone in feeling as you do. Cara x
14th July 2008 @ 6:41 pm
It’s the end of term. The kids are tired. The teachers are tired. No-body is able to behave well.
Hang tight and wait for the holidays to begin.
Big hug.
14th July 2008 @ 11:53 pm
go on alice, give the teacher a slap!
(just kidding)
sometimes information is told to others simply to be passed on. it doesn’t always need to be acted on, it’s just that certain people have to know it. what you do with it is your business, but school will have ‘processed’ it, and dealt (dealing) with it.
so, as long as you have done your own dealing with it (whatever you chose that is), leave it be.
hazeljoy xx
ps. sweet heart! (ha ha, see what i did there! a sweet heart. seriously, i kill myself sometimes…)
15th July 2008 @ 12:31 am
Sending you support from across the ocean.
15th July 2008 @ 6:15 am
*big virtual hug* I suspect there isn’t much you can say. Hope you’ll have more people, who make you smile, in your life and less interactions with unhelpful teachers.
15th July 2008 @ 10:46 am
I really feel for you- I have 2 children with Asperger’s and I know the attitude of expectation that this kind of information is delivered with, and how demoralising it is when I don’t know what the hell to do about it either so why are you looking at me like that obviously it’s because I’m so incompetent because everyone else’s child just doesn’t do that kind of thing.
I usually have to have a good cry after parent-teacher interviews. I also know how it feels to have a good run and then just when you feel like you can relax a bit, there’s Another Incident. Just know you’re not alone.
15th July 2008 @ 3:51 pm
We had parent teacher interviews today, thankfully my husband decided to go. Our son is not problematic the problem is that I cannot understand anything the teacher says (being that it’s Japanese). If there ever was a problem maybe it might not be a bad thing that I can’t understand? 🙂
It’s a credit to you that you create such beautiful things and are a mum with mum problems too. Hugs to you.
15th July 2008 @ 9:51 pm
Hey, At least he isn’t on the receiving end of the punches. LOL My son is almost never on the receiving end. He has had kids twice his size go crying to their mom’s. Sigh. Well, at least I know that I am doing my best and I know you are too. I tell him that also. I tell him, “Joseph, I am doing the best I can to help you know the right thing to do in each situation. Just promise me that you are trying and we will start afresh tomorrow.” My goal in raising my children is to keep communication open on their end especially, to spend as much time with them as I can, and to always be the best friend they need (goodness knows there aren’t enough good friends for them).
Hope things get better,
Wendy